Bridging the Gap
By Susan Hutchison
In August of 2010 I traveled from relatively cool and mossy Seattle to the humid, cricket-buzzing
heat of southeastern Mississippi for a family reunion I will never forget.
I am white, and this was a black family reunion. No, I was not marrying into the family. These
were my cousins. My great-great grandfather, William Trotter, was the father – and slaveholder –
of Henry Trotter, the man whose descendants were gathering from across the country.
This was obviously not your typical reunion situation, and deserves a little background to put it
in context. Several years earlier, inspired by my involvement with descendants of Thomas
Jefferson and Sally Hemings (Thomas and Martha Jefferson are my 6X great-grandparents),
I co-founded a racial reconciliation program called Coming to the Table, which brings together
descendants of slaves and slaveholders who are committed to dialogue and healing. The name
was inspired by a line from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s famous March on Washington speech –
“I have a dream that one day… the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners
will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.”
The remarkable people I met through Coming to the Table and the hopeful nature of our
relationships inspired me to want to search for other “linked descendants,” people to whom I
was “related by slavery.” It felt like a small but meaningful attempt to foster some healing of
the racial dysfunction we Americans have inherited from our history of slavery.
William Trotter seemed like a logical starting point for my quest. I knew that he’d lived in Clarke
County, Mississippi, had enslaved around 40 people, and that he’d self-published a disturbing
200-page defense of slavery just before the Civil War. Dave Pettee, a Coming to the Table friend
and cousin, helped me tremendously with research, going so far as to meet me in Mississippi to
see what records we might find in the county courthouse. Dave is a skilled genealogist, and had
done exactly this kind of research before.
Within a few months, I was in contact with three descendants of Henry Trotter. One of these
cousins, Gary, was a family historian, and had stumbled upon Henry’s misfiled death certificate –
which listed William as Henry’s father – in the Mississippi State Archives. Another cousin,
Mamie was, ironically, the housekeeper for the still-standing William Trotter house. Maceo was
on the reunion organizing committee, and invited me to attend the next reunion and to be part of
a presentation about our shared family history. I was honored to be invited, and eager to meet
these new relatives.
Months passed, we exchanged some calls and emails, and at last it was reunion time. Dave
joined me in Mississippi again. We arrived a day early for more research in the county
courthouse.
On our earlier visit we found documents with names of people enslaved by the Trotter family,
but Henry was not among them. This time we looked for Henry, and found him. He was in an
inventory of personal property that began with a list of 33 names of enslaved men, women and
children.
“one negro woman Mourning appraised at $300
one woman Amy and child Joe $600
one woman Rachel, Susan, Mary and Mahala $1050…”
The sixteenth line read “one boy, Henry $500.”
Full stop. My heart raced. I tried to absorb something of the human meaning of this discovery.
I had seen slave names in property lists before, and it was always unsettling. This time there
was a whole new dimension in the form of living people – Henry’s grandchildren and great-
grandchildren – kinfolk I would soon meet.
The reunion began Friday night with a reception at a community center outside of Laurel,
Mississippi. Dave and I got what felt like a few skeptical looks as we walked across the parking
lot and through the doors into the meeting hall. Even though I’d heard that word had gotten
around that I was coming, I wasn’t sure if everyone knew who I was, and why I was there.
Lucy, one of the organizers who had encouraged me to come, walked over to greet us warmly
right away, and directed us to the registration table where we met Delores, the main reunion
organizer.
Delores welcomed me with a big smile and a hug, then immediately pulled out the reunion
t-shirt to show me. She had worked with a friend to come up with the design and was eager to
see if I would like it. The words “Bridging the Gap” were printed in gold, on a black shirt.
Above, a black hand and a white hand reached out toward one another, a burst of light in the
center where their fingers touched, the two sides of an incomplete bridge comprising the source
of each arm. I was stunned and deeply moved.
After giving Delores some booklets I’d prepared about our shared family history, I settled into
meeting people and visiting. I talked with Barbara, a cousin about my age from South Carolina.
Barbara was sweet, warm and friendly, and I found myself relaxing more and more as we talked.
I also visited with Gene, an outgoing retired Army officer and Trotter family historian from
Colorado.
The next morning there was nothing scheduled. Dave and I drove out into the country to see
where the William Trotter farm had been. The countryside was tranquil and beautiful, with
emerald green pines and rolling, grassy hills. The intense August heat and the buzzing of
crickets fueled my imagination, as I tried to conjure up some sense of what life was like on this
land so many years ago.
How could such benign beauty be connected to such painful history? Would my new cousins
and I be able to transform the legacy of that painful history into something positive?
It was time for the banquet. Soon I would share with the group what I had learned about William
Trotter, our common ancestor. I could do this only because I had learned from many descendants
of people who had been enslaved how meaningful it was for them when white descendants of
slaveholders shared this kind of genealogical information and fully acknowledged the history of
slavery, rather than avoid or deny it. I had learned that many descendants of slaves feel cut off
from their roots due to the genealogical ‘brick wall’ of slavery – no names in census records; no
records of births, deaths, or marriages; private slaveholder family and business records rarely
accessible.
While some descendants of slaves, understandably, do not want to learn about their family’s
connections to slavery and face the pain of that past, I felt it was important to accept the
invitation that had been extended to me, and to talk about what I had found. I only hoped that
my sharing might provide some small measure of healing and repair.
The evening program began with an opening prayer. I was nervous and found it hard to focus on
the program. Suddenly, ahead of schedule, I was called to the microphone.
As I began to talk, fifty solemn faces watched me intently. I let them know that I might get a
little emotional as I talked, but that they didn’t need to worry about me or take care of me – this
was just part of facing the truth and part of the healing.
I talked about William Trotter and his family for several minutes, referring to notes, pausing too
long, feeling awkward and trying not to blow it.
Then came the hardest part – telling them about finding Henry listed as personal property –
a boy, valued at $500. The words almost stopped in my throat, but managed to force their way
out.
A few minutes later I was done. This was not a time for smiles and applause, and there was no
way to know if my offering brought pain or healing, or both. I could only hope.
As I returned to my seat, Gene was called up and took my place at the microphone. He reflected
briefly on the Lord’s Prayer, particularly the phrase, “Thy will be done,” by way of encouraging
people not to let the information that I had shared trouble them. He went on to talk about the
eleven children and 56 grandchildren of Henry and Salina Trotter, including one daughter who
died in 1990 at the age of 112, and one granddaughter who bore 22 children.
After the program, several people made a point of coming over to offer appreciation or
encouragement in one way or another. While I didn’t want anyone to feel they had to reassure
me, I have to admit I felt relief with every positive word.
With the banquet presentation behind me I could relax. At the Sunday picnic I listened to Kevin
and Eric tell stories of snakes and jobs, laughed with Corine, one of the family elders, and visited
with Gloria, a poet from New Orleans who had lost everything in Hurricane Katrina. I ate
delicious barbeque, and tried pig’s feet for the first time (and probably the last).
After a long, easy afternoon, everyone gathered for a group picture. Dave and I started saying
goodbyes, and as we began making our way to the car, several people intercepted us for some
last minute pictures.
I drove away from Laurel feeling happy, blessed, and confident that it had been the right decision
to reach out, accept the hand that had been extended, and begin to bridge the gap.
